The Secret to a Happy Marriage

The secret to a happy marriage:  (You can exchange genders if you are looking for a wife).

First, you must find a man that is employed and makes good money.
Second, you must find a man that makes you laugh and knows how to have a good time.
Third you must find a man that knows how to cook and clean and keep a good house.
Fourth you must find a man that is wonderful in bed, bringing you to the heights of ecstasy.

Fifth, and most important... these men must never meet.


I always liked that joke.  Among other things it points out the main problem - we look for everything in one person, when it is hard enough to find just one set of good qualities in a person.

By the way, the joke's requirements are not for everyone.  The definition of 'good money' varies for everyone, different people have different sense of humor, some people don't care as much about cooking/cleaning.   There are even some people that don't care about sex.

But the basic concept of having multiple criteria exist for everyone.  If you look for the best in one criteria, that person will almost certainly NOT be the best in the other criteria.  So you need to rank and you need to have a minimum as well as a target for most of the criteria.

Otherwise you may be looking for a gorgeous billionaires and reject two Mr. Rights, one of whom is gorgeous, "10" millionaire and the other a handsome "8" billionaire.