The cliche geek girl

When I was young, there was a bunch of movies that had the cliche geek girl.  In the movies, she wore unshapely cloathing, had her hair in a bun, and wore unflattering glasses.

Strangely enough, they usually still gave her good make up and hair.  It would have been easy to say no make up and a bad hair color, but the movies generally did not go even that far.

It was a fairly ridiculous cliche, particularly when you compared it to old black and white movies from the 30's, 40's and even 50's.  Back then they were perfectly OK with casting a, shall we say, less 'traditionally pretty' women.  Now a days, with few exceptions (Glee actually has TWO girls that outweigh me), even the supporting cast must be gorgeous and thin (unless they are making fun of someone). 

Until recently, I felt that cliché was ridiculous.    Today I danced with what could have been the prototype for the cliché.  She was a pretty , natural blond woman, smart enough to work for a major financial news source, that somehow managed to make herself look less than attractive

She had the clumsiness of a beginner dancer, which did not help.  But I could tell that that she had talent and a love of tango.  With time, practice, and instruction, she could become as graceful as any.

She wore a dress that did not flatter her figure.  Granted she came from work, but other women managed to dress up.  Similarly, her hair was up in the classic bun and she wore glasses that were not the best for her.  

Now first of all, she doesn't owe me or anyone else anything.  If she doesn't want to make the effort, that is her right.   Even without making the effort, she was still a little bit above average.   The thing is, I don't think she knows how pretty she actually is.  If this was the movie there would be a montage and she would come out a perfect 10.   In real life, I doubt it would take more than 8 hours to fix her up.   If she simply had a friend willing to dress her up and do advice her on all the other maintenance that women do, she would been the prettiest women on the dance floor

I can't really tell her because I could be wrong.  She might know exactly what she is doing.   She could be happy the way she is, not interested in dating/attracting men/women.  Or maybe she is already involved with someone. who likes her the way she is.

Note, this generally does not work as extreme for straight men.  Mainly because the things that attract straight men tend to require small amounts of daily maintenance (hair and make-up being prime examples) while the things that attract women tend to require excessive amounts of long term work (money and status) or are simply set by the time you are 20 (height).