Women don't think about this, they already have their mind made up. The problem is some of them made up their mind for Yes, while others say No. Worse, they often judge you based on if you try for it or not - those that want a kiss are disappointed if you don't try to do it, while those that don't want a kiss are offended if you do.
In general, with this kind of decision, I recommend stop trying to figure out what women want and figure out what YOU want. You are going to turn off some women anyway, so it might as well be women that disagree with you, rather than women that agree with you.
But I will add two more points. Unfortunately they are slightly contradictory.
- Better to be decisive than to waffle
- It is a good idea to go slowly, giving her the opportunity to signal you that she doesn't want to kiss.
Now it is possible to be decisively slow. The trick is to start slow and at the slightest negative sign immediately stop. Do not restart.
Part of this is simply learning to read the non-verbal communication signs that women expect men to know but absolutely refuse to teach them.
Most of my posts work hard to be balanced, and right now you may think I am not being balanced.
Men also have non-verbal communication signs that we expect women to know and absolutely refuse to teach. Mainly because most of our non-verbal signs tend to be passive aggressive - such as"Distracted response" = "I don't want to do this right now, can't you seem I'm doing something that is time sensitive." Or the ever popular "noncommittal/uninvolved slight agreement" = "I absolutely do not want to argue or even talk about this right now, but actually I disagree with you strongly."
Communication is key. Both men and women need to do it better
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