In the movies, books, and other media, we are taught not to give up.
This is a major problem with dating. We work too hard on doomed relationships. Whether we are talking about the girl/guy you moon over for months or the spouse you despise and think about killing, LEAVE THEM.
Many of us need to learn to give up. We keep wishing for things we already know won't work out.
Give up on the hopeless girl or guy that doesn't like us. Give up on the doomed relationship (even if it's marriage, even if you have children.)
One of the reasons I haven't posted on this blog in a while is that I found a woman and am too busy dating her to blog about the problems I have had with other people. I don't know yet if this relationship is going to work out. But I know what the major potential problems are both of us are working very hard to solve them.
She is a wonderful, intelligent, caring, successful woman and I hope to god we can work out our issues. Ending up with her would be a wonderful way to spend the rest of my life.
But we have set a deadline to solve the major problems in our relationship. If we don't solve them by the end of this year, we will probably go our separate ways.