The best boyfriends make the best ex-boyfriend. I am not perfect - there is a girl I definitely don't want to meet again, and another that I dislike. But in general, I get along well with my ex-girlfriends. In fact I often have lunch with one of them. She recently got married and I attended a post-wedding party. It was fun to finally meet her husband and I got along well with them. In general the party was fun.
But I attended alone. If you are going to attend an ex's wedding (or even just a post-wedding party), it is a good idea to bring a date.
Without a date, I felt like the loser. Here my ex was, married to a great guy while I couldn't even get a date to bring to her party.
The thing is, I have dated woman since we broke up, but happen not to be dating anyone right now. I even have a first date planned for Tuesday. Clearly I am not a failure, just not in the best position right now.
Seeing someone you once cared about doing better than you can really hurt. Logically, it should be no worse than seeing a random couple off the street being happy, but the heart is not logical. We compare ourselves mostly to people we know, and ex-girlfriends are some of the people we know best.
I survived the party, and so can you. At heart, I am glad she found someone she likes. Best of all, I liked him, which made me glad that she dated me. She clearly has good taste in men.
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