I read an article in a british web site (dailymail.co.uk article ), that listed what women complained about in their boyfriend. From what I can tell, most of it (with slight cultural shifts) applies to women as well as men.
First, note these are things they complained about but they have NOT left their boyfriend. So they are 'acceptable', but undesirable traits.
Many of them had to do with chores/hygiene/messiness (toilet seat up, nail clippings left out, not helping with the cooking). No need to list them all - be neat and helpful.
There were two that I found funny (or at least hypocritical):
9. Driving like a boy racer
15. Criticizing her driving
Then there was some silly things like not multi-tasking, watching too much sports, bad dancing and snoring.
Everything above is annoying, and I would avoid them (particularly the hygiene) when you are tryin to get a date. But they are not game killers, in part because they often say as much about the complainer as they do about the complain-ee.
But there were a five significant issues:
- Failing to be friendly with their friends and family
- Not getting along well with children
- Not liking dogs
- Being a "mommy's boy"
- Being grumpy.
That said, let's take a page from British aircraft designers in WWII (they examined returning planes for bullet holes and added extra armor where no bullet holes were found - as clearly the planes that got shot in those areas did not make it back while planes that landed did not need extra armor).
Notice no mention of cheating. If you cheat women don't put up with it as a flaw, they say goodbye. Same for unemployment. Those are the major ones.