I hate it when a woman says she will call but doesn't actually call me back.
Some people are OK with that behavior. I know at least one woman that actually told me she preferred it.
Recently I had a really good time talking with a woman I found on OK Cupid. She never gave me her phone number (well, it showed up on my phone, so I knew what it was), and she said she would call me back.
I'm a pretty assertive guy, but if she wanted to do it that way, I was fine with it. But I did want to make clear my position about call backs. So I ask her if she didn't want to date me, to at least leave a message saying so, not to leave me hanging.
A couple of days later she sent me an email back saying that she did not want to meet me BECAUSE I had asked her to leave the message. It said
"After we hung up I realized that I felt strange about you telling me to let you know if I was not interested in meeting. I wanted to be honest and thought you seemed nice otherwise but it was off-putting.
I wish you all the best but don't think we will be a good match."
In certain ways I am glad she said no. I agree that we would not be a good match. I am clearly way too good for her. And I mean that in the most uncomplimentary way possible. She is not worth my time or effort.
I have emotions and feelings and am willing to tell her about them, but she clearly doesn't want that in a guy.
I wish her luck in her life, but not her search. Because while she will surely find a guy who will hide his emotions, I don't think she is going to actually LIKE him after she gets to know him.
Some people are OK with that behavior. I know at least one woman that actually told me she preferred it.
Recently I had a really good time talking with a woman I found on OK Cupid. She never gave me her phone number (well, it showed up on my phone, so I knew what it was), and she said she would call me back.
I'm a pretty assertive guy, but if she wanted to do it that way, I was fine with it. But I did want to make clear my position about call backs. So I ask her if she didn't want to date me, to at least leave a message saying so, not to leave me hanging.
A couple of days later she sent me an email back saying that she did not want to meet me BECAUSE I had asked her to leave the message. It said
"After we hung up I realized that I felt strange about you telling me to let you know if I was not interested in meeting. I wanted to be honest and thought you seemed nice otherwise but it was off-putting.
I wish you all the best but don't think we will be a good match."
In certain ways I am glad she said no. I agree that we would not be a good match. I am clearly way too good for her. And I mean that in the most uncomplimentary way possible. She is not worth my time or effort.
I have emotions and feelings and am willing to tell her about them, but she clearly doesn't want that in a guy.
I wish her luck in her life, but not her search. Because while she will surely find a guy who will hide his emotions, I don't think she is going to actually LIKE him after she gets to know him.
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