Good Reasons To Dump a Good Date

Much of the time I try to convince people to be less shallow.  Mainly because I see so much of it.  But sometimes people have good reasons to dump good dates.  So lets talk about that situation.

Not everyone is right for everyone else.   There are lots of people that I know are great people, but not great for me.  Moreover, as incredibly fantastic (and modest too!) as I am, there are some great women out there that just won't like me.

These are not flaws, but instead are incompatibilities.  What makes a relationship with them hard for you might make it easier for someone else.  

So here is a partial list of good reasons to dump a good date.   

• Children.   This is a killer.  If you want children, then you need to find someone that WANTS children.  If you don't want children, then you need to find someone that doesn't want children.   The fact that some women have to force men to pay child support means they had no business marrying the guy in the first place.  They should have gotten divorced before she got pregnant, not after.Geographical incompatibility.   Long distance relationships are hard.   
• Assertiveness incompatibility.  Some people want their date to be more assertive, others want them to be less. 
• Work Ethic.   More work means more money - but less time to spend with you.   Pick which one you want and stick to it.
• Attitude.  Some people disagree about things too strongly to get along.  Whether we are talking about politics, religion, prejudice,  or something else, if you end up yelling at them, it won't work.  Figure out what they care about and see if can accept it.
• Clean vs. Casual.   Different people have different levels of acceptable dirt.  If you are the 'cleaner' guy/gal, then you better be willing to do more of the cleaning than the 'casual' guy/gal

 These are things you need to be talk about early in the relationship.  Before you become too intimate and the hormones take over.