Double Standard

There are double standards when it comes to dating.   When we view those standards "in reverse", we get some interesting affects.

Most men don't try to be attractive.  No make up.   Our hair is never styled.   We have no beauty regime at all.  We make no effort with regards to buying or selecting clothing - and the clothing they do buy is cheap.   Don't even get me started on shoes.

Oh and we guys are FAT.   We men are tremendously overweight by the standard society expects of women.  The best looking men I know have a higher body fat percent then the pretty young women.

And most of us are clueless .  We don't pick up the many social clues women give to tell us what to do.  We don't notice who is interested in us, who hates us, or anything else.


Of course, turn about is fair play.  If men are ugly, fat, and clueless,  women are cheap, rude and shy.   Why, women sometimes don't even take a wallet on their dates.  If a guy did that, not only won't he get a second date, but the girl would tell tales of him as the worst date ever.   Which brings us to my next point...

By men's standards, women rude.   It's fine to be rude to rude men.   But the majority of men are not rude - while the majority of women are very rude.   The reason is simple - guys can't be rude until after we are rejected because we get punished directly by women refusing to date us.  The women on the other hand have no negative consequences for being rude to men they don't want to date.   They take full advantage of this freedom and men are expected to "man up" and take it.

Lastly, women are clinically shy when it comes to dating.  If a man was that shy, he would have severe psychological issues requiring professional help.  They don't ask men out, they don't email, they don't approach men without alcohol.  

The double standards are not bad, nor are they good.  They just are.      By their own standards, men are reasonably concerned with how they look, are not significantly more overweight, and pay attention to women.  Women are generous, polite and assertive.


So before you judge the opposite gender, consider how you personally would be judged using the same standard.