Several times in my life, people have told me to take a break from dating. Sometimes a different focus was added - such as 'focus on work', 'focus on writing', 'focus on dancing', or 'focus on your health'. Usually by someone that was connected to my work, writing, dancing, or health, respectively.
This never seemed like a good idea, and the few times I tried it, it totally failed.
Note, I am a straight man, and that makes a huge difference. Straight women get hit on all the time - they have to work at selecting the date, not getting one, so if Prince Charming comes along, they still have a chance. If Princess Moana comes along, even she won't ask me out. She may be the bravest of the Disney set, but that is still too much to ask.
Oh, if I were taller, it might be different. But tall men don't need much advice here, they get married much earlier than the rest of us (1cm of height is equivalent to a 3% pay differential, or for us Americans, men that are 4 inches taller are considered more desirable than a man that is shorter but makes 30% more money., and similar results in france)
So, unless you are a remarkable man that finds dating very easy (for whatever reason), taking a break is not a good idea. Instead, you get lonely. Desperate, and lose confidence.
It's a long haul. You have to keep hitting whatever dating method works for your until you find the right person and stick with them.
This never seemed like a good idea, and the few times I tried it, it totally failed.
Note, I am a straight man, and that makes a huge difference. Straight women get hit on all the time - they have to work at selecting the date, not getting one, so if Prince Charming comes along, they still have a chance. If Princess Moana comes along, even she won't ask me out. She may be the bravest of the Disney set, but that is still too much to ask.
Oh, if I were taller, it might be different. But tall men don't need much advice here, they get married much earlier than the rest of us (1cm of height is equivalent to a 3% pay differential, or for us Americans, men that are 4 inches taller are considered more desirable than a man that is shorter but makes 30% more money., and similar results in france)
So, unless you are a remarkable man that finds dating very easy (for whatever reason), taking a break is not a good idea. Instead, you get lonely. Desperate, and lose confidence.
It's a long haul. You have to keep hitting whatever dating method works for your until you find the right person and stick with them.
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