Anyone with experience in the dating world has at some point dated a crazy person. There are a lot of them out there. In fact, according to psychiatrists, there are about 7 billion crazy people out there.
That's the favorite joke of a psychiatrist friend of mine. At heart, doctors think everyone's just a little bit crazy. We all have issues. Maybe you were picked on as a child. Maybe you had an obsessive parent. Maybe you were raped. The point is as we live our lives, bad things happen. Even if nothing bad ever happened to you - that would definitely make your crazy - you would never understand how other people could be affected by bad things.
The point is that every one has their issues. Finding out that someone has an issue should not be a deal-breaker. Even if you find it early. Finding out about an issue early may simply mean you are dealing with an honest person - someone that puts themselves out there, truthfully.
But that doesn't mean you should go out dating crazy people. Instead, when you discover an issue that someone has you have to think about that particular issue. Is it going to bother you when they clean everything obsessively - and yell at your for not doing the same? Is it going to bother you if they are jealous? If they call all the time? If they don't respond to calls in a reasonable amount of time?
Keep in mind that you ALSO have your own issues. Figure them out. Look for people that won't be bothered by or interact badly with your issues. I have a thing about fairness and authority. There are lots of people that won't work well with me.
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