Matches that Work

Not all relationships have to end in eternal love with a side of lovely children.   There are a lot of good matches that work really well without children.  Here are a few.  Note, these are good relationships - even if from the outside they look dysfunctional, the people are getting what they want and enjoying life.

But they do have hidden weaknesses that can kill the relationship.   If the participants 'mature' and no longer want the life they original desired, that will always kill the relationship.  In particular, as people get older, sometimes they decided they really do want children, which can kill a relationship based on no children.

1. Young woman that likes the good life + older, wealthy man.  He wants her beauty, she wants his money.   Warning: If she loses here looks, or if he loses his cash, it will kill the relationship.     
2. Ambitious man + ambitious woman.   When they aren't working, they are spending cash like crazy.  They are both willing to put up with each others late hours and business trips.    They don't have time to look for a better mate, they do enjoy the massive amounts of spending cash the double income provides.  Warning:  if either of them decided to stop working so hard, it will kill the relationship.
3. Young, pretty woman that likes the good life and doesn't care if her husband cheats + young, wealthy, fit, sexually active man.   This is a bit of intentional blindness here.  You both are shallow and don't care.  Neither is looking for a 'deeper' relationship, neither wants to improve their own character.  Warning:  If she doesn't know he cheats and finds out, relationship ends.
4. Smart, desirable woman + not-as-smart- desirable man.   This works because he never realizes how she is using him.  She runs his life and he thinks he is lucky to have her, not realizing how desirable he is.  Perhaps he has a good job and is trustworthy, or is simply tall.   For whatever reason, he is very much in demand but does not know it.  Warning:  If she takes him for granted too much, or if he another woman clues him in to how desirable he is, he will leave her.
5.  Any two kinky folk with matching perfectly perversions.  Exhibitionist + voyeur, dominant + submissive, sadist + masochist (yes D/s is not the same as S/M), two foot fetishists, etc. etc.  Warning:  Some people like the fantasy more than the reality.  If they live out all their fantasies, the kink can fade.

Now, I am not making value judgments here.  Some might use words like workaholic, gold digger, cradle robber, player, pervert etc. -  but those are just ways to insult people for doing what they enjoy.   Complaining about that is like complaining that men like pretty women.  It's natural and as long as both parties know what is going on, there's nothing wrong with that.

Where problems occur, is if people don't recognize what they are doing.   Particularly if, as most people are, you are less introspective but very critical of potential mates.  The classic is the young, shallow woman, dating a man for his money, who gets upset when she finds out he is cheating on her.  She realizes he is a player, but never realizes she is a gold digger.  The traditional end if of the story has her dumping him for another rich man that also cheats on her.

But there are MANY many women that know what they are, know what they want, and overlook the cheating.  It is not a sign of weakness - it is in fact a sign of strength.  She is not ignorant, she knows what is goign on, and has decided she likes her life enough to put up with the downsides.  Money makes life a lot easier and all lives have downsides.  Just ask Princess Di's children.