No, everyone else is not having more fun than you.

This is a very common belief and I am here to tell you it is false.

In general, media, particularly television tends to show attractive people having fun.  Watching unhappy people is boring.   The average American is fatter, poorer, and less socially active than the people we watch on TV or the movies.  This gives us a false impression that everyone else is having far more fun than you are.  Take a show like the Big Bang. It is a show about nerds.  It started out fairly realistic with four male nerds without girlfriends and one of them lusting after the pretty girl next door.  If they were shorter and fatter, it would have been a fairly realistic portrayal.  As of Feb 24, 2011, three of them could be said to have girlfriends and one of them is choosing between two girls.  Not exactly realistic.

I am here to tell you that you are NOT alone being alone.  Think about this list:

• Workaholics
• People in failing/failed marriages
• Socially unskilled people too scared to ask others out
• People that that think they are too unattractive and just stay home
• Soldiers out in the field, never having the chance to meet potential dates.

We outnumber the happy people shown on TV.  There are tons of people over 30 that think they have wasted their youth.   Most people don't date a new hottie/millionaire each week.

People thinks that everyone else is out having far more fun than they are.   This is not true.

But don't take this as a sign to give up.  If you think you aren't having as much fun, then go out and GET SOME.  Fun, that is.   Do things.  Take classes or find social activities.  Here are some ideas.

• Join a sports team or sign up for a ski club.
• Take dancing, painting, sculpting or some other kind of art lessons
• Go take some cooking lessons.
• Learn a new language
• Learn to ride horseback
• Take a martial arts class
• Learn how to shoot a bow & arrow or rifle.
• Try karaoke
• Learn Chess or Go (computers can't beat humans at Go, but they can beat us at Chess).
• Got to a Knitting or soldering classes

Just go out and look for classes and activities.  Check local collages, social centers, classified ads.  Most classes that sound even slightly interesting end up being fun.

There are a ton of fun activities out there.   Just because you don't end up naked with a hottie or a muscle man, doesn't mean you can't enjoy your life.  Besides, with a little bit of luck, you can meet someone you like doing something you enjoy.

Also, if you want to try something that is 'counter' sexual traditions, do it anyway.  Men, feel free to take a knitting class.  Woman, take a firearms class.   It's a good way to meet someone of the opposite gender and they will think MORE of you for taking it, not less.  I might not  brag about it to your friends, but go do it.